Happy Places

Happy Places

To all that have been so patient with me, thank you!  This past year has been a complete whirlwind of greatness.  The final edits went in yesterday for the novel.  Next step: formatting.  Last October, I got married to my sweetheart (seen here). We went on a honeymoon adventure to Norway.  It was a beautiful country and absolutely inspirational.  I highly recommend going, and I will make sure to post photos of the journey soon. 🙂

Life has had its ups and downs in my life, and past me still is waiting for “the other shoe to drop”.  However, present me tells that past, “Hey – it’s okay. Let’s enjoy what we have today!”

So that’s what I’ve been doing these past few months. I’ve been enjoying my life. However, I do plan to try and give you more updates in the future.

Thanks for sticking it out with me. 🙂


E. M.Vick


Dreams & Loss

About a month ago, I woke up from a dream with both a sense of bittersweetness and peace.

My family and friends are well aware of the impact my grandfather had on my life. He served in WWII as a mechanic in California, he was a civics teacher, and an avid gardener (amongst other great qualities). He never showed me any anger nor did he ever put down my grand dreams. I suppose that is a benefit to being a grandfather over a parent. You get to enjoy the ride without needing to put in all the grunt work.

My grandfather got to see all these beautiful and tough journeys unfold for his children and his grandchildren. I mean, when you live into your 90s, you get to do that. My grandfather saw me get into college and pursue my dream as a writer. But in 2010, he passed.

Selfishly, I crumpled on the floor of my dorm sobbing to my best friend that it was too soon – that it wasn’t fair. In reality, he was 92, saw his first great-grandchildren, stayed with my failing grandmother to her end, and lived a full and vibrant life. Nonetheless, I still miss him from time to time. I am even tearing up writing about him 7 years later.

Why am I talking about this? Why is this important to my writing?

Well, simply because one of the things I always regretted was that he’d never see that I fulfilled my dream. That’d he’d never see my fire still going. That he’d never see how far I had come – how far I would go.

Then the dream happened.

In it, I was getting ready to leave a warehouse when I saw him. My grandfather was just sitting there talking with some old buddy. I told Kyle we had to wait, that I needed to go get him. Obviously, I rushed up and put my arms around him and began to sob. I told him I needed him, and how happy I was he was back. He gave a squeeze back and pulled away to look me in the eye.

“No, you don’t need me anymore. You’ve got this.”

It was so matter of fact and simple. Part of me wanted to argue, to tell him to stay. But his smile stopped me as his words sank in.

“Go catch up,” he pointed to my fiance. “I’m watching.”

I gave him a final hug and left.

And then I woke up.

Maybe dreams are just our minds working through loss and pain to dull the ache. Maybe it was the spirit of my grandfather coming down for a final lesson. Whatever you believe, something shifted in me.

What I know is that I’m okay to move forward. I’m okay to still be sad from time to time, but to not dwell on those who are gone. Rather, I need to embrace my own adventure and celebrate this life with those who are still here. There is still so much left to do and that much more left to write.

2018 – Life and Goals

New Years Day has a special place in my heart (right next to Halloween).  Every year I spend the time turning over resolutions and goals.  It’s like spring cleaning for the soul. Yet, this year was different.

I didn’t have “the list” like I usually do.  I didn’t stay up and midnight and immediate start journalling.  I didn’t have my panic attack of another year gone by.

And you know what?

It was wonderful.

Don’t get me wrong! I have goals.  I have stories that need to be written, things I want to do, place I want to go.  But, I trust myself to do them on my own.

Take, for example, my health.

“Eat healthier and be a better about exercise!”

Well, I downloaded PlateJoy back in August.  So, that is helping me there.  Plus, the holidays are over so I’ll go back to my usual cooking method.  On top of it, I got a mixer this year to make my own bread.  So, feeling pretty good there!

And for exercise, Yoga with Adriene took care of that for me.  I already love the instructor, and she was leading the way to a better January with daily flows for a truer self.  So far so good.

“Write more & get published!”

Well, that last part is already happening for 2019.  Win there! I want to keep going – but that requires finished novels that have been polished.

Alright, what are you going to work on? How will you keep yourself writing?

Alright, let’s see here…I have Morgan, Top Hat Society II: Syn Rising, The Man from Kumo(still working on that title), The Cast Outs, Alex Butler and the Unruly Library  …Yeah I think I’ve got plenty to work with.  

I’ve been keeping my journal on me daily for whenever the story strikes me.  I have an amazing support system that includes an aunt that sends me daily inspirations, a friend group that never quits, and a fiance that listens to my ramblings happily.

“Fine, those are done…what about love? Find love!”

Oh, but I have.  In 2013, I sought out therapy to teach me how to love myself.  I came to my therapist as an emotional tornado that felt I couldn’t live alone.  Or perhaps I should say, I couldn’t live with myself.  During that time, I rediscovered “me”.  I stopped trying to pretend to be someone else for whoever I was dating.  I stopped trying to fit into a mold that would please everyone.  I started to say no, a word I feared.  During that journey, I became confident in myself.   My best friends were excited to see the girl they had once known come back.   The funny thing was Kyle got to know me for who I was.  We were best friends without judgement or fear of what the other thought.  We said what we felt and were willing to have deep philosophical arguments at midnight.  Everyone saw the love growing between us, but we were the last to find out.  To speed up the story, we started to date in 2014 and now in 2018, we will be getting married.  He is my soulmate, and I cannot wait for the day I can call him my husband.

“Okay…travel! Definitely, need to travel!”

Already have it covered.  Going to Norway in the fall.  Next?

“This isn’t fair!  I’m your anxiety! I get final say!”

Yes, I have anxiety.  No, it will never be easy.  But it doesn’t mean I cannot enjoy my adventure.

In conclusion, yes.  I have goals. I know life will get in the way, but that’s okay. I can safely say I am happy.  Maybe not every day, but that won’t stop me in my tracks either.  I’m excited to see where this year takes me, and I’m excited you are coming with me.

Shall We Begin?

The journey I’m on feels like a strange one.  It is amazing, and it will have plenty of growing pains.  But it is the one I have wanted since 6th grade.  In 2019 Top Hat Society will be a published novel.

It is a bit like going through the 5 Stages of Grief, but I’d call mine The 5 Stages of Disbelief.

Denial – This can’t be happening.

Anger – How dare those bullies in high school tease and tear at my stories as if I weren’t a human being beneath those words?

Bargaining – I am going to have to give the devil my soul, aren’t I?

Depression –  Can I do this?  There will always be someone who hates my writing…do I have the skin for this game?

Acceptance – Yes, this is happening.  Yes, those kids at school were quite cruel.  But you are achieving your dream.  No, there is no devil soul exchange needed.  Your publisher is quite nice and down to earth.  And yes, you can do this.  Again, this is your dream. Not everyone is going to like it.  But your dream was to be published and provide an escape to readers just as you looked for in your novels.

So there it is for you! My first post at the start of a journey.  2018 will be full of new things.  So…shall we begin?

~E. M. Vick